As my Mom continues to heal from a complicated surgical procedure, soon I will be stepping into a new role as care partner. There is so much to learn and I find myself surprised at every turn. As my place in her care begins to evolve I can already see how, until you are actually in it, it’s really impossible to understand the whole dynamic from an outside perspective.
As I step into this new role, I have been blessed by the presence of others who came to this before me and have offered support. The words of those who have been down this path are invaluable. I’m deeply grateful for all of those lovely humans who have shared their experience, strength and hope with me.
As it happens, a dear friend has just launched a new website as a resource for caregivers and care partners. Gretchen wrote her story of the years she spent caring for her mother in the home she grew up in. Mother Lode: Confessions of a Reluctant Caregiver, will be published this fall by She Writes Press. While every story is different, we all benefit from a shared sense that we are not alone on this journey.
You can read about her story on this beautiful new website here.
There are a lot of nuggets here. Resources, help, encouragement … it’s like a secret little box of magic hidden under the bed. I will likely share of my own experience as well, because as the days go on it becomes clear that “you just don’t know what you just don’t know”. Another dear friend reminds me often that we can’t see around corners and never have I known that to be more true than it is right now *
This website is worth a bookmark. A place you can return to over and over again, whether this is a journey you are just beginning, a path you have traveled already or a seatbelt for the rollercoaster ride ahead. We can’t see around those corners but we can do our best to tether ourselves to those things designed to hold us.
This is one of those things.
If you sign up and subscribe, you’ll get to read the first couple chapters of her soon-to-be published book and I promise it will leave you longing to hear the rest of this story.
It’s been a bumpy ride here and I’m not sure what’s ahead, but I know that I am honored to be able to step into this place of helping Mom heal. I look forward to sharing time with both Mom and Dad as we adjust to an ever-changing landscape with us tethered firmly in the NOW.